Friday, December 31, 2010

感动

我们可以选择与谁为伍,因为那是友情的推动。
我们可以追求人生的伴侣,因为那是爱情的触动。
我们无法促使缘份的对象,因为那是亲情的感动!

血缘固然是亲情的源头,人与人之间的微妙情感,心灵交流,却在不知觉中催生了另一种感动,随之诞生了一种血缘之外的亲情。这一份亲情来的更为震撼,更是珍贵,让人不仅小心翼翼地捧在手里,拥入怀中,温暖了整颗跳动的心!

第一眼的接触,略带忧郁的眼神,从眼角边流露出一种令人好奇的神秘感,让人不仅想去了解多一点。贸然的举动会引起不该有的误会,时间固然是一大要素,有缘与否更是或不可缺。

缘的开始很微妙,通过一个事件把两个人的距离拉近。是什么原因让一个人对另一个人产生了信任,谁也说不上来。是什么原因让一个人愿意去聆听另一个人的心声,同样也无法解释。在不同的故事里却不仅有着相同的桥段,只是换了人在搬演着,让两个本来并不相识的人愿意敞开心房,毫无忌惮的畅谈,那是彼此间对对方的信任与尊重,一种来之不易的珍贵情感。

父亲从儿子的故事里勾起了自己的往事,痛惜着自己不幸的过去正发生在儿子身上。儿子听罢了父亲的相同感受,彷徨挣扎的心似乎暂时得到平息。从事件中看到彼此间内心深处的脆弱与痛楚,互相给予鼓励和关怀,不需要很多的言语来描述,父子间正淌流着一股带着浓浓的爱惜与关怀的亲情。

儿子是上天对父亲的怜悯所赐于的最佳礼物。一声迟来的“爸”,让人感动非常,不听使唤的眼腺把泪水推向眼眶,泛着泪光的眼睛不敢正视儿子。很温馨,很感动,在父亲眼里儿子是优秀的、帅气的。2010年11月2日,一个特别的日子,诞生了一段父子情缘!

把这一篇献给儿子,祝愿儿子永远幸福快乐!

Monday, November 1, 2010

简单的幸福

日常料理中,很少以马铃薯为食材,因为马铃薯偏高能量,多食较能发胖,不宜过量。再者烹煮马铃薯的方式也较受局限。

上市场时,看到摆放着的马铃薯确实新鲜,心里盘算着要如何用来做创意料理,最后还是买了下来。回到家里,找来大蒜和猪肉来做配搭。

做法:
1. 先把猪肉洗净,用少许的生抽和黑胡椒酱腌制备用。
2. 马铃薯切薯条状,大蒜切条状备用。
3. 马铃薯用热油快炸,虑干多余的油,盛盘备用。
4. 用适量的油,爆香蒜头,加入大蒜快炒至3 分熟,加少许盐巴调味。
5. 加入猪肉, 用大火快炒(这样才能保留鲜肉里的水份,保持鲜嫩度)至8 分熟。
6. 加入炸好的马铃薯一起快炒。
7. 加入少许的温水调羹,即可盛盘食用。

用自己的方式做出创意料理来宠身边的人,这就是我对幸福的诠释!

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

想飛


乘搭飛机時最喜歡離地騰空的那一剎那,飛起來了! 不曉得為什麼就是特別喜歡那一刻!

起飛了,俯看下去,大地就在腳下,越離越遠,白雲就在身邊周圍,好想伸手握一握雲兒,那是什麼樣的触覺?

天空真的很藍,很美!這麼近距離的欣賞,遠比站在地上望空來得更晴,更美!

飛得更高了,雲也變得就在腳下,再也看不到陸地了,離開了此刻的心情變得有點不知如何形容.
是拋下一切離開了嗎?
是厭倦了一切,非得走嗎?
是期待已久想要的解脫嗎?
是在逃避無法解決的難題嗎?
是真的想要這一刻就只有天與我的感覺嗎?
是為了攀得更高,想要那種高高在上的优越感嗎?

同樣的問號,每一次都在此刻浮現.心中不是沒有答案.
對每個問號,都有”是”的成份,沒有單一答案,心情變復雜了,復雜得不想去厘清.







一首我喜愛的歌曲,鄭怡演唱的【想飛】:

你的熱情漸漸冷寞
你的笑容化為沈默
秋天的心適合獨自體會
秋天的我 想飛

冷風吹過楓葉飄落
我還在這留戀什麼
秋天的心適合獨自體會
秋天的我 想飛

我要展翅飛翔 越過高山和海洋
帶著我的以往 找個地方埋藏憂傷

眼看愛情就要凋落
你我不該這樣錯過
秋天的心適合獨自體會
秋天的我 想飛

Saturday, September 4, 2010

About Diamonds

A diamond is a transparent crystal of tetrahedral bonded carbon, where the carbon atoms are arranged in a variation of the face-centered cubic crystal structure called a diamond lattice. The chemical bonds that hold the carbon atoms in diamonds together are weaker than those that hold together the other form of pure carbon, graphite. The difference is that in diamonds, the bonds form an inflexible three-dimensional lattice. In graphite, the atoms are tightly bonded into sheets, which can slide easily over one another.

In particular, diamond has the highest hardness and thermal conductivity of any bulk material. Those properties determine the major industrial application of diamond in cutting and polishing tools.

Diamond has remarkable optical characteristics. Because of its extremely rigid lattice, it can be contaminated by very few types of impurities, such as boron and nitrogen. Combined with wide transparency, this results in the clear, colorless appearance of most natural diamonds. Diamond also has relatively high optical dispersion that is the ability to disperse light of different colors, which results in its characteristic luster. Excellent optical and mechanical properties, combined with efficient marketing, make diamond the most popular gemstone.

Hardness
Diamond is the hardest natural material known, where hardness is defined as resistance to scratching and is graded between 1 (softest) and 10 (hardest) using the Mohs scale of mineral hardness. Diamond has a hardness of 10 (hardest) on this scale. Diamond's hardness has been known since antiquity, and is the source of its name.

Diamond hardness depends on its purity, crystalline perfection and orientation: hardness is higher for flawless, pure crystals oriented to the direction (along the longest diagonal of the cubic diamond lattice). Therefore, whereas it might be possible to scratch some diamonds with other materials, such as boron nitride, the hardest diamonds can only be scratched by other diamonds. In particular, nanocrystalline diamond aggregates were measured to be harder than any large single crystal diamond.

The hardness of diamond contributes to its suitability as a gemstone. Because it can only be scratched by other diamonds, it maintains its polish extremely well. Unlike many other gems, it is well-suited to daily wear because of its resistance to scratching—perhaps contributing to its popularity as the preferred gem in wedding rings, which are often worn every day.

Electrical conductivity
Diamonds can be identified by their high thermal conductivity. Other specialized applications also exist or are being developed, including use as semiconductors: some blue diamonds are natural semiconductors, in contrast to most diamonds, which are excellent electrical insulators. The conductivity and blue color originate from boron impurity. Boron substitutes for carbon atoms in the diamond lattice, donating a hole into the valence band.

Monday, August 9, 2010

Inspiring words: - Eckhart Tolle

Eckhart Tolle (born Ulrich Tolle, 1948), is a German-born writer, public speaker, and spiritual teacher. He is the author of the bestsellers The Power of Now and A New Earth.

Tolle's books and teachings have received both praise and criticism from theologians and the mainstream media. He says he is not identified with any particular religion, but his work has been influenced by a wide range of spiritual teachings.

Humanity is trapped in thinking. Individuals derive a sense of identity from these thoughts, and it becomes impossible to achieve lasting happiness. As this sense of identity is fictional and static, it is subject to destruction and decay, a process as the main causal factor in human suffering. This sense of identity is the cause of unnecessary human conflict. The escape from this ongoing prison is a direct experience of the sublime, the infinite - that which stands outside, before and beyond the categorizations and divisions of conceptual thought. A key way this can be done is to focus one's attention on the present moment.

"Earth, 114 million years ago, one morning just after sunrise: The first flower ever to appear on the planet opens up to receive the rays of the sun ... this momentous event heralds an evolutionary transformation in the life of plants". This is an analogy for a transformation in human consciousness, which sees is about to occur, and has already begun.

Tolle believes that the earliest such "flowers" or spiritual messengers were in the forms of Buddha, Jesus, Laozi and other such great teachers. At those particular time periods in history these great teachers’ messages were hazy and misunderstood.

"Ego" as an "illusory sense of self" based on one's memories and thoughts. It becomes obvious that the human ego in its collective aspect as “us” against “them” is even more insane than the “me,” the individual ego, although the mechanism is the same. By far the greater part of violence that humans have inflicted on each other is not the work of criminals or the mentally deranged, but of normal, respectable citizens in the service of the collective ego.

Our identification with things: things that we use every day for self enhancement or things we have become attached to and become obsessed with; how inferiority changes the way we act with other people and creates an ego that we didn’t normally have.

Pain body” describes the human tendency to carry around "an accumulation of old emotional pain". The identification is what causes all the reoccurring pain in the individual. Being able to know where the pain is coming from will prevent the pain body to renew itself through you. Our inner consciousness can change the world by not just being satisfied with what you do. Our destinies can be determined by how we carry out our actions and how we can fulfill them with the best possible consciousness.

Knowing what is “Inner space, inner purpose and who you truly are” and making distinctions: between "knowing yourself and knowing about yourself"; between the "Dreamer" and the "dream"; between the objects of consciousness and the space of consciousness; between outer space and inner space; and between outer purpose and inner purpose.

There are several ways to finding a more peaceful way to live. There are three stages in the inner consciousness of an individual through:

Acceptance is when you may not enjoy what you are doing but you have to be able to accept it. This is essentially being able to take responsibility in your life and to take action with certain things that are not enjoyable at all and to find peace within these activities.

Enjoyment is the next modality and it is being able to make the present moment a pivotal part of your life. This doesn’t mean that if you want to do something that you will find enjoyment in it. It means that with everything you do that you need to enjoy it in the present; you can’t let the moments pass you by or tell yourself you will enjoy something in the near future.

Enthusiasm entails that there is a deeper enjoyment in the actions you do and being able to work towards a final goal, with a sense of urgency, but without stress.

"To meet everything and everyone through stillness instead of mental noise is the greatest gift you can offer to the universe."

Sunday, July 25, 2010

引中國著名作家冰心的話

親情是一種深度,友情是一種廣度,而愛情則是一種純度。親情是一種沒有條件,不求回報的陽光沐浴;友情是一種浩蕩宏大、可以隨時安然棲息的理解堤岸;而愛情則是一種神秘無邊、可以使歌至忘情淚至瀟灑的心靈照耀。

“人生一世,親情、友情、愛情三者缺一,已為遺憾;三者缺二,實為可憐;三者皆缺,活而如亡!”

“體驗了親情的深度,領略了友情的廣度,擁有了愛情的純度,這樣的人生,才稱得上是名副其實的人生。”

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Aphorisms, epigrams and truisms

Philosophical
“Don’t compare your life to others, you have no idea what their journey is all about”
“Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present”
“Live with the 3 Es – Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy”

Some truth
“Don’t take yourself so seriously, because no one else does”
“No one is in charge of your happiness except you”
“Dream more while you are awake”
“Try to make at least three people smile each day”
“Eat more food that grow on trees and plants and eat less that are manufactured in plants”
“Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper”

Humorous yet meaningful
“Never criticize a man until you have walked a mile in his shoes. Then if he doesn’t like it, it doesn’t matter because you’re a mile away and you have his shoes!”

“The purpose of life is a life with purpose”

Value relationship
“Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of six”

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Add a new page to my blog

I had wanted to add pages to my blog but really had no clue how to go about with it, though I had seen some blogs with pages and look organized. I asked around for help but to no avail; either maybe I did not express it correctly to let the person understand what I wanted or usually I got answers or explanations that did not solve my problem.

It did not bother me too much really, just as initially I did not deemed a necessity for starting a blog. The whole idea is truly just to keep some of my writings or poems in some virtual place that will not take up any physical storage space.

And I am happy with the present state of my blog!

Just that each time when I add a new post I would ponder again how to add in a page. So I went through the Help page again and this time scrolling through each help topic with patience. And yes, finally I found the missing information that I have been long searching for an answer.

With some try and error, I got what I want on how it should look and created a new blog http://www.qqfeicui.blogspot.com.

Just like when I first started this blog all on my own given my limited IT knowledge, I am happy with myself again to explore into new stuff independently. I am trying new things, each and every day!

Friday, April 30, 2010

愛情的歌

愛情也來輕敲我的心門
當我看到你的那一瞬間
我的心狂跳不已
此時此刻能在一起的事實
覺得幸福就近在眼前了。

我相信
當我看著你的眼,請愛我
一整天向你告白,我也覺得不夠
就算閉起眼睛也會想起你
這就是愛吧。

希望你的雙唇只叫我的名字
希望你的雙眼里只有我的人
不要忘了你現在不是一個人
我希望你能永遠跟我在一起
我會永遠愛著你,我的愛。

對我來講只有一個人
你現在要離開我嗎?
你看我的那個眼神
好像是在跟我道別
我不熟練的禱告
好像在開上天的玩笑
那時候我會再讓你離開
好像很久以前的那一天。

只是像閃過的一陣風
對我是暫時被允許的動搖嗎?
如果像傻瓜一樣讓你離開
你會再回到我的身邊嗎?

只要一次,一次也可以
不要像道別一樣對我笑。
如果你可以這樣對我的話
我會讓你毫無牽掛的離開
如果那樣你才會幸福的話
我會讓你毫無牽掛的離開。

珍重,再見!

Sunday, March 28, 2010

怡情养性 (2):收藏手表

坊间的手表种类款式众多,价格不一,若只为了平日使用,以功能、外观为选择即可,但如果是为了专门嗜好或升值潜力,就必须谨慎选择,仔细考虑手表的状况,年代等其他条件。

刚开始收藏手表者可根据个人经济能力及喜爱偏好来决定手表收藏范围,然后才到手表转售市场淘宝,建立个人收藏。大部分人的时间和金钱资源有限,开始收藏前最好能先设定收藏主题,然后才集中资源收罗符合条件的手表。藏表主题因人而异,可以是样式奇特少见的手表为主,譬如镶有宝石、有手绘图象的手表等的手表;或以国家、年代为范围,如前苏联时期生产的、30年代推出的等;也可以专门收集著名品牌的手表系列,像劳力士、伯爵、百达翡丽等都是市场价值很高的世界名表;此外,一些限量纪念版或专为知名人物而设计的独特款式,又或者是具备特别功能的手表或怀表,如具备万年历、月相功能等,都适合作为收藏手表的主题。

收藏手表有一定的学问,对于手表的产地、年代、功能、款式和机械构造等须有一定的认识,才不会蒙受欺骗。那些工艺精良、年代久远的珍藏手表价格不菲,购买时一定要精挑细选,要求原装原件,须留意机蕊与轮轴是否完好无损,机壳表层有没有裂痕,指针走时准不准确,各类配饰是否齐全等等,此外,也别忘了查看手表品牌名称写法,以免因仿写或翻写做假面上当,确保买到状况良好,原装原件的珍藏品。

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

立春 : 一年復始

曾聞立春乃一年復始之日,卻不知此亦同清明日、冬至日皆陽歷指定日期。

好友的生日正好是臘月廿九,立春后,算命的說屬下一個生肖,總搞不清楚那是怎么一回事。最近終于給弄明白了,原來農歷有三個節日是陽歷的指定日期。

2月4日 – 立春
4月5日 – 清明
12月22日 – 冬至

春天總是暖和的,有氣息的,生命勃勃!一年復始、萬象更新!
春天總是歡愉的,紅彤彤的,喜氣洋洋!日計于晨、欣欣向榮!

小時候過年很開心,那是因為不用上學、有得玩又有汽水、糖果吃!閑中取樂!
長大一點過年很開心,那是因為可以幫媽媽的忙,做過年糕點、做大掃除、把家里布置一番!忙中取樂!
再長大一點過年很開心,那是因為可以相約去朋友、同事家拜年,出外游樂!樂中取樂!
現在過年也很開心,那是因為要忙的、要布置的,時間、意愿上自己能夠掌控,也能更動!辛中取樂!

過年總是這樣忙着、張羅着,方式改變了,模式還是依舊的,這就是傳統!

Monday, January 18, 2010

It's a decision

We are most of the times honest to our own feelings when it comes to making decision for change, of course for the better. And so, we make decisions everyday, be it major or minor, critical or not. What makes it difficult to arrive at a decision and making a choice among alternatives is the results, desirable or not or the consequences, good or bad that we have to face after we have chosen a path.

When we have analysed the result of each course of action, we are merely more prepared to accept the consequences of a calculated risk, mentally. But a lot of times, a calculated risk is also influenced by various surrounding factors that may be far beyond our control and hence the final result though expected are often less predictable.

In business negotiations, we work to have both negotiating parties benefiting from the business decision to arrive at a “Win-Win” situation. However in personal decision, that is often less seen in that sense and at time one or more parties may become victims of a decision, though it was never intended to be that way.

As we have to move on with our lives or get out from a dilemma, it is inevitable that we have to choose our next course of action at different stage of live or work. Be honest with ourselves of what prompted us to make a change and follow the feeling truthfully. When we looked back after awhile, very often we realized that it was not either a good or bad decision, but what was presented to us at that moment of a choice was the most preferred under all constraints.

Should we regret or not when faced with the consequences is just a matter of personal capability of handling a crisis.

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